Okay first thing’s first, you need to understand that the brony fandom is big. Like, really big.
Although it started out as a niche fandom, it’s huge popularity has drastically altered it.
So if you’re not seeing people discussing the stuff you want to talk about, keep looking, and you’ll find the right community eventually.
There’s a lot of range, I’m in chat rooms and forums that range from strictly-SFW, super soft and friendly, all the way to highly NSFW, open any links in an incognito window.
Show writing and discussion is always a little thin on the ground between seasons - all the previous stuff has kinda been talked about to death, so it’s only when there are new episodes coming out that the discussion really picks up again.
Don’t be put off by the analysts who take it too seriously either. Some of them can get pretty intense, and I tend to avoid them, but there are some great youtube analysts out there who provide really level headed opinions - it’s just a shame the youtube commenting community isn’t a great place for discussion.
Positive messages - Love and Tolerate isn’t exactly at the forefront of the fandom anymore… but a great deal of bronies (the kind of ones you do want to meet and have a conversation with) do still feel strongly about celebrating the positive aspects of the show. They’re worth seeking out - but due to the large numbers this fandom now deals with, they might not be the first people you come across.
Violence and Sex - Yea this is somewhat inevitable. Both these things are valid and inevitable, however, it’s just as valid not to be interested in them yourself. I have no interest in mixing MLP and violence at all… but I’m not required to pay attention when people do.
Fallout: Equestria is a big deal in the fanfic scene. I’m not interested in it, and I’m not required to be. Simples.
It’s up to bronies to share content responsibly, and in a decent community they will. If you find yourself encountering unwanted material you didn’t want to see, you’re probably in the wrong community.
It doesn’t make that community bad, it’s just that different people are into different things.
Certainly don’t let the presence of material you’re not interested in ruin the show for you. The show is a thing on it’s own - watch and enjoying it is entirely separate to where and how you engage the fandom.
The message - As I mentioned, a lot of brony groups don’t always fly that kindness flag that we all started off with, but it doesn’t mean we don’t believe it. For every brash dude-brony, there’s two more who really dig the message of the show, and do their best to reciprocate.
It’s a mixed group, find your place in the fandom, and pay no attention to that which doesn’t interest you.
Being in the fandom doesn’t mean you follow and believe every part of it.
heterosexuals on deviantart are so protective of their heterosexuality that they’re threatened by gay people so they find it necessary to make everything straight so they can feel better about themselves just LOOK
Oh a group for heterosexual Hetalia parings.
It’s not like
There’s a group